6 Lessons I Have Learned From Being In A Relationship For 4 Years

LIFESTYLE Nov 06, 2016 13 Comments


If you kiss my neck,… I am not responsible for what happens next. – A girl

When you get into a relationship, it is a nice feeling and your world turns upside down and back. You can also find new perspectives on your entire life. I know that it may sound a little bit… pinky but when you once get there, you’ll see for yourself.

When my boyfriend and I started dating, I didn’t believe that this between us will last more than a week. It was I was quite unsure about it because I was a moody teenager and he was an intellectual quiet boy. But then, from weeks became months and from months  became years and I realized that I actually felt in love with him and he felt in love with me. And here we are.

As a partner, you never stop exploring and understanding  your other half – his feelings, needs and dreams. We are still learning and here are things I’ve learned for 4 years of relationship.

1. You’re a team

That means, that you work/play/fight together not against each other. I know that this may sound obvious but trust me when I say that I met a few couples where teamwork doesn’t exist.

Of course, a relationship isn’t a sport but you’ll find out that by working together you can actually do more things. So, try to not compete.

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2. Fights happen

When you get into a relationship, you see everything nicely and sweetly. “We don’t fight. We just talk…” But when you once find out that your boyfriend has a different opinion on something, fights can happen and it happens to the best one.

The important is to not let the stupid fight separate you just because you hate when your boyfriend leaves dirty dishes all over the kitchen and he hates when you hate him. It’s just stupid but it happens. But it doesn’t make you a bad couple. Trust me.

3. Respect each other’s opinion

Okay. To be honest, this is the hard one for me. It’s not like I don’t respect my boyfriend’s opinion – I do. It is just hard to not to try to convince him that mine is the better one (of course, this is not true; I know that).

But after a couple of years, you’ll understand that no one’s opinion is better or worst then the other one. Just admit the fact that you are people of different opinions and instead of judge them try to understand them.

4. Let yourself some space

Even if I and my boyfriend are a couple now, we still have our own hobbies that we love to do by ourselves. So, even if you are in a relationship don’t forget to give ourselves some space to do what you like to do, to meet whoever you like to meet.

After all, who knows, maybe you will have your whole life to be together. (*blink*)

5. Distance deepens desires

Firstly, I don’t talk about a long distance relationship. I mean, do you know the feeling that you have when you’re eagerly waiting on something that you really like or want? But that you actually enjoy this feeling more than the book (or whatever) you expect? This is what I mean by distance deepens desires. 

6. Romantic is needed

Sex isn’t the most important thing in the relationship but when the romantic is missing, something is wrong. Trust me.

It is not always about thousands of roses and chocolate and a huge teddy bear. But even a hug or a kiss can be the most romantic gesture you can give to your other half.

 What are your ‘lessons’ you have learned from being a girlfriend? Let me know in comments.


6 Things I Have Learned From Being In A Relationship For 4 Years


Twenty-year student based in the Czech Republic. She admires everything minimal and floral. And she is also a big bookworm.


  1. Robin

    Hi from Canada! Are you currently living in the Czech Republic? I have a friend from there 🙂
    This post resonated with me because when I was twenty I had also been in a relationship for four years! Though we ended things after 5 and I’ve dated quite a bit since, the lessons I learned from that relationship were invaluable.
    My greatest lesson as a girlfriend was learning how to build myself up and love myself – and not needing my boyfriend to validate me. Once I learned that, everything else got much easier.
    Wishing you and your love many, many more years together.

    • Lucie

      Hey, Robin! Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts! I think this is really nice lessons and the most important one. 🙂 I am from the Czech Republic, yes. And where your friend live? If I may ask.

  2. Kaley

    The biggest lesson I learned is that communication is the #1 key. If you don’t communicate, you’ll have so many more issues and won’t be able to fix any of them if your partner doesn’t know how you’re feeling.

    • Lucie

      That’s right! Thank you, Kayley, for reminding me this because I totally forget it. Communication is needed in a relationship:)

  3. KP

    I agree with all of these, especially “distance deepens desire”. Some people think it’s odd that my boyfriend and I only see each other a few times a week, but they don’t understand that not seeing each other every day makes us appreciate those times when we are together so much more. I get little butterflies in my stomach when I’m getting ready to see him because it’s special, instead of just routine.

    • Lucie

      I can’t tell you how much I agree with you in what you wrote. 🙂 And I know the butterflies feeling, too – It’s a really nice. Thank you for stopping by.

  4. Jenna

    I love your tips! My boyfriend and I have been together for over 7 years, and all of your tips are perfect for longterm relationships. The tip you mentioned about having your own hobbies is the thing that helped our relationship the most. I grow my business and he loves writing. I’m so glad that he has a hobby that I can support him in and he does the same for me. Thanks for sharing!


    • Lucie

      7 years? That’s amazing! I wish you many more years together! And I think it’s great you found these hobbies who actually make you together. 🙂 Thank you for stopping by, Jenna.

    • Lucie

      I am so glad that you like it, Annabelle! 🙂

  5. My boyfriend and I will be celebrating our third anniversary soon and reading through your post had me nodding along. I agree 100% in all of them! 😀 Stay in love, Lucie! <3

    • Lucie

      Oh, that’s amazing! Happy universary then. 🙂 Thank you for stopping by, Renee.

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