If you kiss my neck,… I am not responsible for what happens next. – A girl
When you get into a relationship, it is a nice feeling and your world turns upside down and back. You can also find new perspectives on your entire life. I know that it may sound a little bit… pinky but when you once get there, you’ll see for yourself.
When my boyfriend and I started dating, I didn’t believe that this between us will last more than a week.
It was I was quite unsure about it because I was a moody teenager and he was an intellectual quiet boy. But then, from weeks became months and from months became years and I realized that I actually felt in love with him and he felt in love with me. And here we are.
As a partner, you never stop exploring and understanding your other half – his feelings, needs and dreams. We are still learning and here are things I’ve learned for 4 years of relationship.
1. You’re a team
That means, that you work/play/fight together not against each other. I know that this may sound obvious but trust me when I say that I met a few couples where teamwork doesn’t exist.
Of course, a relationship isn’t a sport but you’ll find out that by working together you can actually do more things. So, try to not compete.
2. Fights happen
When you get into a relationship, you see everything nicely and sweetly. “We don’t fight. We just talk…” But when you once find out that your boyfriend has a different opinion on something, fights can happen and it happens to the best one.
The important is to not let the stupid fight separate you just because you hate when your boyfriend leaves dirty dishes all over the kitchen and he hates when you hate him. It’s just stupid but it happens. But it doesn’t make you a bad couple. Trust me.
3. Respect each other’s opinion
Okay. To be honest, this is the hard one for me. It’s not like I don’t respect my boyfriend’s opinion – I do. It is just hard to not to try to convince him that mine is the better one (of course, this is not true; I know that).
But after a couple of years, you’ll understand that no one’s opinion is better or worst then the other one. Just admit the fact that you are people of different opinions and instead of judge them try to understand them.
4. Let yourself some space
Even if I and my boyfriend are a couple now, we still have our own hobbies that we love to do by ourselves. So, even if you are in a relationship don’t forget to give ourselves some space to do what you like to do, to meet whoever you like to meet.
After all, who knows, maybe you will have your whole life to be together. (*blink*)
5. Distance deepens desires
Firstly, I don’t talk about a long distance relationship. I mean, do you know the feeling that you have when you’re eagerly waiting on something that you really like or want? But that you actually enjoy this feeling more than the book (or whatever) you expect? This is what I mean by distance deepens desires.
6. Romantic is needed
Sex isn’t the most important thing in the relationship but when the romantic is missing, something is wrong. Trust me.
It is not always about thousands of roses and chocolate and a huge teddy bear. But even a hug or a kiss can be the most romantic gesture you can give to your other half.
What are your ‘lessons’ you have learned from being a girlfriend? Let me know in comments.