Admire someone else’s beauty without questioning your own.
Social media and us.
Us and social media.
This entire social media matter has turned into a kinda big thing, huh?
I guess I’m not alone who lost in this social media comparison maze. It doesn’t matter if you’re a blogger, copywriter, youtuber or just a regular reader. Once in a while, it happens to everyone we doubt ourselves because the other person has something we miss. And it’s an irony because we’ll never be like ‘the other person’.
You know I also used to compare myself to other people online a lot and so I underestimated myself but also, I compared my everything to completely strangers. When I think about it today, it feels weird. On the other hand, I get it, comparing is a part of our human nature – trough the comparison we can improve ourselves. Until you don’t let it goes over your head.
However, what’s the point of doing this? Fortunately, none! Somehow I realise I can’t make you stop comparing your everything to someone else by snapping my fingers. But if I learned something from comparing myself to strangers, it’s this…
1| I will never win
The truth is that you are the only one who will feel bad about yourself. It’s no one’s fault, but you started and by doing this you harm only to yourself. There is nobody worth your pain, much less someone you will probably never meet.
2| we’re all different
At this point, it’s good to say this quote: Don’t compare your beginning to someone else’s middle. So convenient, right? I think so.
The point is that we’re all individual and we all have different ways to improve ourselves. Something that works for me may not work for you and vice versa. Just because your favourite blogger has more comments than you doesn’t mean you’re a bad blogger or you don’t have it.
3| I’m not perfect
This one is not about insulting or doubting. It’s all about accepting who you’re and that you’re not perfect (nobody is). Actually (and I think you’ve heard a billion times) there will be always someone who is richer, smarter or nicer. And it’s up to you how you will handle this.
The comparison is a thief of joy. Don’t compare yourself to anybody and only to yourself. I know it’s easy to say but hard to do. However, it’s possible.
Do you or do you not compare yourself? Let’s chat.